Ten Things a Hindu can do While using English Language

Ten Things a Hindu can do While using English Language: - written by Francois Gautier (check his Facebook page. He knows more Hinduism than many of us)

# 01.
Please stop using the term "God fearing" - Hindus never ever fear God. For us, God is everywhere and we are also part of God. God is not a separate entity to fear.
It is integral.
# 02.
Please do not use the meaningless term "RIP" when someone dies. Use "Om Shanti", "Sadhgati" or "I wish this atma attains moksha/sadhgati /Uthama lokas".  Hinduism neither has the concept of "soul" nor its "resting". The terms "Atma" and "Jeeva" are, in a way, antonyms for the word "soul".(to be understood in detail)

# 03.
Please don't use the word "Mythology" for our historic epics (Ithihaas) Ramayana and Mahabharata.  Rama and Krishna are historical heroes, not just mythical characters.

# 04.
Please don't be apologetic about idol worship and say “Oh, that's just symbolic". All religions have idolatry in kinds or forms - cross, words, letters (calligraphy) or direction.
Also let's stop using the words the words 'idols', 'statues' or 'images' when we refer to the sculptures of our Gods.
Use the terms 'Moorthi' or 'Vigraha'. If words like Karma, Yoga, Guru and Mantra can be in the mainstream, why not Moorthi or Vigraha?

# 04.
Please don't refer to Ganesh and Hanuman as "Elephant god" and "Monkey god" respectively. You can simply write Shree Ganesh and Shree Hanuman.

# 05.
Please don't refer to our temples as prayer halls. Temples are "devalaya" (abode of god) and not "prarthanalaya" (Prayer halls).

# 06.
Please don't wish your children "black birthday" by allowing  them to blow off the candles that are kept on top of the birthday cake. Don't throw spit on the divine fire (Agni Deva). Instead, ask them to pray: "Oh divine fire, lead me from darkness to light" (Thamasoma Jyotirgamaya) by lighting a lamp. These are all strong images that go deep into the psyche.

# 07.
Please avoid using the words "spirituality" and "materialistic". For a Hindu, everything is divine. The words spirituality and materialism came to India through evangelists and Europeans who had a concept of Church vs State. Or Science vs Religion. On the contrary, in India, Sages were scientists and the foundation stone of Sanatan Dharma was Science.

# 09.
Please don't use the word "Sin" instead of "Paapa". We only have Dharma (duty, righteousness, responsibility and privilege) and Adharma (when dharma is not followed).  Dharma has nothing to do with social or religious morality. 'Paapa' derives from Adharma.

# 10.
Please don't use loose translation like meditation for "dhyana" and 'breathing exercise' for "Pranayama". It conveys wrong meanings. Use the original words.

Remember,  the world respects only those who respect themselves!

Please pass it on so that people can understand about Hindu Dharma....
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Competition never rest

The exit of Germany, Spain, portugal and Argentina from the World Cup 2018 is a message to every human being ..that
*however good you are..*

*Whatever your achievement in the past were..*

*competition never rest...You got to be on the run always..*

and that's how life is !!

10 सलाहें

उच्चतम् न्यायालय के न्यायाधीश, जो परिवारिक झगडे़ सुलझाने वाले न्यायालय से सम्बंधित थे, उन की 10 सलाहें।

1. अपने बेटे और पुत्र वधु को विवाह उपरांत अपने साथ रहने के लिए उत्साहित न करें, उत्तम है उन्हें अलग, यहां तक कि किरायेे के मकान में भी रहने को कहें, अलग घर ढूूँढना उनकी परेशानी है। आप और बच्चों के घरों की अधिक दूरी आप के सम्बंधों को वेहतर बनायेगी।

2. अपनी पुत्र वधु से अपने पुत्र की पत्नी कि तरह व्यवहार करें, न की अपनी बेटी की तरह, आप मित्रवत् हो सकते हैं। आप का पुत्र सदैव आप से छोटा रहेगा, किन्तु उस की पत्नी नहीं, अगर एक बार भी उसे डांट देंगें तो वह सदैव याद रखेगी

वास्तविकता में केवल उस की माँ ही उसे डाँटने या सुधारने का एकाधिकार रखती है आप नहीं।

3. आपकी पुत्रवधु की कोई भी आदत या उस का चरित्र किसी भी अवस्था मैं आप की नहीं, आप के पुत्र की परेशानी है, क्योंकि पुत्र व्यस्क है।

4. ईकट्ठे रहते हुए भी अपनी अपनी जिम्मेदारियाँ स्पष्ट रखें, उनके कपड़े न धोयें, खाना न पकायें या आया का काम न करें, जब तक पुत्रवधू उसके लिए आप से प्रार्थना न करे, और अगर आप ये करने में सक्षम हैं, एवम् प्रति उपकार भी नहीं चाहते तो। बिशेषतः अपने पुत्र की परेशानियों को अपनी परेशानियां न बनाए, उसे स्वयं हल करने देंं।

5. जब वह लड़ रहे हों, गूंगे एवम् बैहरे बने रहें। यह स्वभाविक है कि छोटी उमर के पति पत्नी अपने झगड़े में अविभावकों का हस्तक्षेप नहीं चाहते। 

6. आपके पोती पोते केवल आप के पुत्र एवम् पुत्रवधू के हैं, वह उन्हें जैसा बनाना चाहते हैं बनाने दें, अच्छाई या बुराई के लिए वह स्वयं जिम्मेदार होंगे।

7. आप की पुत्रवधु को आप का सम्मान या सेवा करना जरुरी नहीं है, यह आप के बेटे का दायित्व है।आप को अपने बेटे को ऐसी शिक्षा देनी चाहिए कि वह एक अच्छा ईन्सान बने जिस से आपके और आप की पुत्रवधु के सम्बंध अच्छे रहें।

8. अपनी रिटायरमेंट को सूनियोजित करें, अपने बच्चों से उस में ज्यादा सहयोग की उम्मीद न करें। आप बहुत से पडाव अपनी जीवन यात्रा में तय कर चुके हैं पर अभी भी जीवन यात्रा में बहुत कुछ सीखना है।

9. यह आप के हित में है आप अपने रिटायरमेंट सालों आनन्द लें, वेहतर है अगर आप अपनी मृत्यु से पूर्व उसका भरपूर आनन्द लें जो आप ने जीवन पर्यंत मेहनत करके बचाया है। अपनी कमाई को अपने लिए महत्त्वहीन न होने दें।

10. आपके नाती पोते आपके परिवार का हिस्सा नहीं हैं, वह अपने अभिभावकों धरोहर हैं।

कृपया ध्यान् दें...

यह संदेश सिर्फ़ आप के लिए नहीं है, इसे मित्रों, अभिभावकों, ससुरालियों, चाचा चाची एवम् ताऊ ताई पति एवम् पत्नी सभी, शान्ति एवम् समर्द्धी के लिए शेअर करें क्योंकि यह उच्चतम् न्यायालय के न्यायाधीश, जो परिवारिक झगडे़ सुलझाते रहे हैं, उनके तजुर्बे पर आधारित हैं।

 

तुम व्हाट्सएप, मैं टेलीग्राम..

पता नहीं किसकी रचना है लेकिन बड़े ही तीखे व्यंग्य कसे हैं:

एकदम फ्रेश एवं समसामयिक...
😊😊👍👍

तुम मायावती सी स्वप्नसुंदरी,
मै राहुल सा समझदार प्रिये।
कर्नाटक के गठबंधन सा,
है तेरा मेरा प्यार प्रिये।।
😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

मैं आरएसएस का उग्रवाद,
तुम आईएसआईएस का शान्तरूप।
मैं मंदिर का कर्णकटु शंखनाद,
तुम अजान सी मधुर झंकार प्रिये
😜😜😜😜😜😜😜

तुम व्हाट्सएप, मैं टेलीग्राम,
तुम नेट बैंकिंग, मैं मनीऑर्डर।
तुम बुलेट ट्रेन सी द्रुतगामी,
मैं खच्चर-ऊंट सवार प्रिये।।
😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

सोनिया सी त्यागमूर्ति हो तुम,
मैं हूं अटल सा पद लोलुप।
मैं नाम का पीएम मनमोहन,
तुम ही असली सरकार प्रिये।।
😝😝😝😝😝😝😝

तुम रेणुका की सी स्मित मंद,
और मैं स्मृति का अटृहास।
तुम मर्यादित भाषा निरुपम की,
मैं आडवाणी वाचाल प्रिये।
😉😉😉😉😉😉😉

तुम गगनचुम्बी पेट्रोल भाव,
मैं इंटरनेट सा सस्ता हूँ।
लेकिन हम दोनों से ही है,
इस दुनिया की रफ्तार प्रिये।।
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

तुम लालू जैसी पशुप्रेमी,
निर्दोष टूजी, सीजी बोफोर्स
तुम चिदम्बरम सी ईमानदार,
मुझसे लज्जित भ्रष्टाचार प्रिये।l
😳😳😳😳😳😳😳

तुम सेकुलर कांग्रेस जैसी,
मैं साम्प्रदायिक बीजेपी सा।
तेरी काली करतूतों का,
मैं ढोता सर पर भार प्रिये।।
😏😏😏😏😏😏😏

तुम दिग्विजय-थरूर चरित्रवान,
मैं योगी-मोदी सा पतित।
तुम औवेसी जैसी देशभक्त,
मैं द्रोही गुनहगार प्रिये।।
☺☺☺☺☺☺☺

तुम मासूम हो पत्थरबाजों सी,
मैं तुझसे पिटता क्रूर सैनिक।
तू वोट बैंक का स्ट्रांग रूम,
मैं तेरे आगे लाचार प्रिये।।
😔😔😔😔😔😔😔

तुम वेटिकन का लव लेटर,
तुम देवबंद का फतवा हो।
मैं खामोशी संत महंतों की,
और मिथ्या गीता सार प्रिये।।
🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩

मैं कश्मीरी पंडित अतिक्रमी,
तुम पीड़ित निरीह रोहिंग्या हो।
मैं रिफ्यूजी कैंप के हूँ काबिल,
तुम भारत की हकदार प्रिये।।
😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

*तुम भारत गौरव जिन्ना हो,*
*मैं भगतसिंह आतंकवादी।*
*भारत की आज़ादी के श्रेय पर,*
*है तेरा ही अधिकार प्रिये।*
🌹🙏🌹🌹🙏🌹🙏

Hinduism

Devotee : "Swamiji, who is the founder of Christianity?"
Swami Chinmayananda : "Jesus"
Devotee : "Who is the founder of Islam?"
Swami Chinmayananda : "Mohammed".
Devotee : "Who is the founder of Hinduism?"
Swami Chinmayananda : "................."
Devotee : "What Swamiji, your religion doesn't have a founder?"

Swami Chinmayananda : "There is no one particular founder for Hinduism as its not an outcome of one personality's knowledge. Let me put the same question to you. Who is the founder of Chemistry? Physics? You cannot answer, because these are sciences which had contributions from plenty of scientists. In Hinduism, our Rishis were the scientists".

Devotee : "..."

Swami Chinmayananda : "If you ask a Christian to give book on Christianity, he gives you Bible. If you ask a Muslim to give book on Islam, he gives you Quran. But if you ask me to give book on Hinduism, I will say, "Welcome to my Library!"

Players spend less than 15% of their time hitting the ball.

A TV anchor once asked Martina Navratilova, “How do you maintain your focus and manage to keep playing, even at the age of 43 ?”

Her suave response was, “The ball doesn’t know how old I am.  Besides, for 90% of the match I don’t have to focus”.

In a typical tennis match, the players spend less than 15% of their time hitting the ball. During a round of golf, golfers spend less than 20% of their round swinging a golf club, and in American football, the ball is actually in play for only 6% of the game.

In his excellent book, Stillpower, Sports Psychologist Garret Kramer says that a key factor to performing well in sports (and in life), is your ability to control the quality and quantity of your “internal dialogue”, understanding:

Performance= Potential - internal interference

In other words, you need to stop yourself from stopping yourself.

Sports, business, and indeed, life are played on a 6-inch course… the space between our ears!

TWO MINUTES MANAGEMENT

Lesson One
An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing nothing.
A small rabbit saw the eagle and asked him, "Can I also sit like you and do nothing?"
The eagle answered: "Sure, why not."
So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the eagle and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit, and ate it.
Management Lesson - To be sitting doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.

Lesson Two
A turkey was chatting with a bull. "I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy."
"Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the bull. "They're packed with nutrients."
The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree. The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at the top of the tree.
He was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot him out of the tree.
Management Lesson - Bullshit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.

Lesson Three
A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold; the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field.
While he was there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realise how warm he was.
The dung was actually thawing him out!
He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy.
A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.
Management Lessons - (1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy. (2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend. (3) And when you're in deep shit, it's best to keep your mouth shut!
This ends your two-minute management course.

Lessons on Corporate Management

Truly Awesome👌👍 During a Robbery in Hong Kong, the Bank Robber shouted to everyone in the bank:
"Don't move. The Money belongs to the Government. Your Life belongs to You."

Everyone in the Bank laid down quietly.

This is called "Mind Changing Concept” Changing the Conventional Way of Thinking.

When a Lady lay on the Table provocatively, the Robber shouted at her:
"Please be Civilised! This is a Robbery and not a Rape!"

This is called "Being Professional” . Focus only on What You are Trained to do!

When the Bank Robbers returned Home, the Younger Robber (MBA Trained) told the older Robber (who has only completed Year 6 in Primary School):
"Big Brother, let's count how much we got."

The older Robber rebutted and said:
"You are very Stupid. There is so much Money it will take us a long time to count. Tonight, the TV News will tell us how much we Robbed from the Bank!"

This is called "Experience”
Nowadays, experience is more Important than Paper Qualifications!

After the Robbers had left, the Bank Manager told the Bank supervisor to call the Police quickly. But the Supervisor said to him:
"Wait! Let us take out $10 Million from the Bank for ourselves and add it to the $70 Million that we have previously Embezzled from the Bank”.

This is called "Swim with the Tide”
Converting an unfavorable situation to Your Advantage!

The Supervisor says: "It will be Good if there is a Robbery every month." 

This is called "Changing Priority”
Personal Happiness is more Important than Your Job”.

The next day, the TV News reported that $100 Million was taken from the Bank. The Robbers Counted and Counted and Counted, but they could only Count $20 Million.

The Robbers were very Angry and Complained:
"We risked our Lives and only took $20 Million. The Bank Manager took $80 Million with a snap of his fingers. It looks like it is better to be Educated than to be a Thief!"

This is called "Knowledge is worth as much as Gold!"

👆Must read ..Superb one. Lessons on Corporate Management in a nutshell !!

Funny IT company culture quote

INFOSYSism 
You have a 1000 poor cows. You put them on a nice campus, & send them one at a time to the US for milking. 

WIPROism 
GE has a cow. You take 49% of the milk. 

SATYAMism 
You have a cow. You have its milk. But don't know what to do with it! 

DELLism 
Intel has a Goat. Samsung has a Camel. Buy milk from both & sell it as Cow's milk. 

IBMism 
You have old stubborn cows. You sell them as pet dogs to innocent small businessmen. 

MICROSOFTism 
You have a cow. Force the world to buy milk from you. Spend a million dollars to feed poorer cows. 

SUNism 
You have a bull. It doesn't give milk. You hate Microsoft. 

ORACLEism 
You have a cow. You don't know which side to milk, so you sell tools to help milk cows. 

SAPism 
You don't have a cow You sell milking solutions for cows implemented by milking consultants. 

APPLEism 
You have a cow. You sell iMilk. 

SONYism 
You have a cow. You spend $50 mn to develop the world's thinnest milk. 

CITIBANKism 
Welcome to Citibank. If you have a cow, press 1. If you have a bull, press 2...stay on line if you'd like our customer care to milk it for you. 

HPism 
You don't know if what you have is a cow. You sell complete milking solutions through authorised resellers only. 

GEism 
You have a donkey. People think you have a 100-year old cow. If someone finds out, that's his imagination at work. 

RELIANCEism 
You don't yet have a cow. You sell empty cans to people for Rs. 501, because Dhirubhai wanted everyone to have milk. 

TATAism 
You have a very old cow. You re-brand it as TATA Indicow.

Financial Tips For 2018:

1. Avoid buying property on loans as it eats most of your earnings unless you have a clear plan for its repayment. It's important to monitor cash flow. Though, the house will be your asset, your liability will be much more.

2. Start a SIP at a very young age. Try to save atleast 15–25 % of your earnings.

3. Avoid buying a car unless you use it everyday.
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4. Do not let this sentence scare you. “Mutual fund investment are subject to market risk. Please read the offer documents carefully before investing”. Most people avoid investing in mutual funds just because of this one warning. Yes, there is a market risk, but look at the history and growth of mutual funds.

5. Try having a simple wedding.

6. Atleast 20% of your wealth should be liquid so you can utilize it when necessary.

7. Considering inflation, you are actually losing money if it is in savings bank account. Do not keep huge money in savings bank account.

8. If you invest in stocks, pay due attention.

9. If you invest in stocks have a separate account for delivery investment and Intraday investment. It is easy to monitor this way and also makes tax calculation easy

10. Do not have a belief that property and car make you rich. Its what you save and invest, that is important.

11. Never invest in insurance for returns. Insurance is not an investment option. It is a risk management tool.

12. Never use credit cards for lavish spending. Use credit cards intelligently and for needs not for wants.

13. Cancel all credit cards before you die. Or inform family about all your accounts, credit cards, loans and saving now itself.  Even a small residue will cost your family much.

14. Invest on yourself and then on other investments.

15. Always try to balance your earnings with your savings first, then on  spending and loans. Never take unnecessary loans. Always have reserve and utilise them and unless no other go never take loan.

16. Always have a plan for future events on your career, life, spending and finance.

17. Always have a reserve on your savings for contingency and urgent situations.

18. Your personal life and health are the most important investment. Do have a regular health check and do healthy workout every day. Stay healthy and live happily.

19. Always remember death can come anytime.....so please do buy adequate term Insurance if you have dependents.

20. Prepare a Will. It may avoid unnecessary fights after you die.

2 stories

2 stories to begin with
1. Nokia refused Android
2. Yahoo refused Google
Story over, lessons learnt
1. Take risks
2. Embrace changes
3. If you refuse to change with time, you might perish

Ok, 2 more stories
1. Facebook takes over WhatsApp and instagram
2. Flipkart takes over Myntra and Flipkart owned Myntra takes over Jabong
Story over, lessons learnt
1. Become so powerful that your competitors become your allies
2. Reach the top position and then eliminate the competition
3. Keep innovating

2 more stories ...
1. Colonel sanders founded KFC at the age of 65
2. Jack Ma, who couldn't get a job in KFC, founded Ali Baba
Story over, lessons learnt
1. Age is just a number
2. Only those who keep trying, succeed

Last but not the least ...
Lamborghini was founded as a result of intended revenge by a tractor owner who was insulted by Enzo Ferrari, the founder of Ferrari
Story over, lessons learnt
1. Never underestimate anyone, ever
2. Success is the best revenge

Just keep working hard,
invest your time wisely,
do what pleases you, dont be afraid to fail!

WhatsApp best practices -4

Exit and delete groups which are not important for you. You will see you get lots of personal time back to spend. You need not be part of every group created by everyone in your contact list.

School exam daya

Do you still remember those awkward days in schools during Exams ?

When a bright student tells the invigilator that question 4 has a problem, but you have already answered it...😳😜

When a fellow student asks for a graph paper, but you are finished and did not see anywhere where it was required...😧 😁😁

When the invigilator says jump question 6 we will rectify it later, but it was the question you enjoyed most when answering...😟 😱😲

When you see people busy using rulers and you are wondering what is going on...😣😫😫

When you hear your friends arguing after the exam whether the answer to question 5 was 35.5% or 36.5% and your answer was 1800 😩😏

The cream. When the other students asked for 4-5 additional answer sheets and You had two pages empty in the main answer sheet😨😰😱

See where you have reached in life inspite of those moments...things are not permanent...enjoy life! 😃😃

Only for those who enjoyed their school life😂😂😂

WhatsApp best practices-2

Please never be in hurry to forward long messages which even you have not read. People have sent it to you, please read & digest first and think your list does need that message? Frequent forward will make them ignore even your valuable messages.

WhatsApp best practices-3

WhatsApp best practices:
Ashwin®

3. Don't get angry when your friend send you back the same forward which you had sent it to him. It's possible he had not even seen your forward, he may be taking you less seriously than you think. And he might have got it from many people or.group. And that forward was never your original creation.

Murphy's First Law

*Murphy's First Law:*
If you ask your husband to pick up five items at the store and then you add one more as an afterthought, he will forget two of the first five.

*Kauffman's Paradox of the Corporation:*
The less important you are to the corporation, the more your absence is noticed.

*The Salary Axiom:*
The pay raise is just large enough to increase your taxes and just small enough to have no effect on your take-home pay.

*Miller's Law of Insurance:*
Insurance covers everything except what happens.

*First Law of Living:*
As soon as you start doing what you always wanted to be doing, you'll want to be doing something else.

*Weiner's Law of Libraries:*
There are no answers, only cross-references.

*Isaac's Strange Rule of Staleness:*
Any food that starts out hard will soften when stale. Any food that starts out soft will harden when stale.

*The Grocery Bag Law:*
The candy bar you planned to eat on the way home from the market is always hidden at the bottom of the grocery bag.

And Here goes the last one !!

*Lampner's Law of Employment:*
When leaving work late, you will go unnoticed. When you leave work early, you will meet the boss in the parking lot !

WhatsApp best practices: -Ashwin

1. Always write something about video you forwarding. It is possible someone else already forwarded & they have already seen it. You will save lots of data and time of others.

Age makes things irrelevant

● At age 40 years,
"highly educated"
and  "less educated"
are the same.

(Less educated people may even earn more money)

● At age 50 years,
"beauty" and "ugly" are the same.

(No matter how pretty you are, at this age, wrinkles, dark spots,
etc. can no more be hidden.)

● At age 60 years,
"high position"
and
"low position"
are the same.

(After retirement,
even a peon will avoid looking at his boss)

● At age 70 years,
"big house" and "small house" are the same.
(Joints degeneration, hard to move,
only require a little space to sit )

● At age 80 years,
"have money" and "no money" are the same.
(Even when you want to spend money,
you don't know where to spend)

● At age 90 years,
"Sleeping" and "waking up" are the same.

(After you wake up,
you still don't know what to do)
Take life easy,
there are no mysteries to be solved. 

In the long run,
we'll all be the same.

So forget all tensions of
life & enjoy..

Keep Smiling😊😊

YES, I AM CHANGING!

YES, I AM CHANGING!

Days slip into weeks, weeks turn into months and months transform into years. Calendars are changing and so am I.

Yes, I  am changing. After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children, my friends, now I have started loving myself.

Yes, I  am changing. I just realised that I am not “ Atlas ” and the world does not rest on my shoulders.

Yes, I  am changing. I now stopped bargaining with poor vegetables and fruits vendors. After all, a few rupees more is not going to burn a hole in my pocket but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.

Yes, I  am changing. I pay the autowalla / cabbie and walk away without waiting for the change.The extra money might bring a smile on his face. After all he is toiling much harder for a living than me.

Yes, I  am changing. I stopped telling the elderly that they have already narrated that story many times. After  all, the story makes them walk down the memory lane and relive the past.

Yes, I  am changing. I have learnt not to correct  people even when I know they are wrong. After all, the onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.

Yes, I  am changing.  I give compliments freely and generously. After all its  a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me.

Yes, I  am changing. I have learnt not to bother about a crease on my shirt or a spot on my skirt. After all, personality speaks louder than appearances.

Yes, I  am changing. I walk  away from people who don't value me. After all, they might not know my worth, but I do.

Yes, I  am changing. I remain cool when someone plays dirty politics to outrun me in the rat race.After all, I am not a rat and neither am I in any race.

Yes, I  am changing. I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. After all, it's my emotions that make me human.

Yes, I  am changing. I have learnt that its better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. After all, my ego will keep me aloof whereas with relationships I will never be alone.

Yes, I  am changing. I demand  for whatever  is due to me. After all, accepting injustice is almost as bad as doing injustice.

Yes, I  am changing. I've learnt to live each day as if it were the last. After all, it might be the last .

Yes, I  am changing. I am doing what makes me happy. After all, I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to me.

AND I'M LOVING THE NEW ME

सच मे, औरतें बेहद अजीब होतीं हैं... - गुलज़ार

गुलज़ार द्वारा लिखी किताब *_The longest short story of my life with grace_*जो उन्होंने *"राखी"*को समर्पित की है से  एक अंश...

लोग सच कहते हैं -
औरतें बेहद अजीब होतीं है...

रात भर पूरा सोती नहीं
थोड़ा थोड़ा जागती रहतीं है
नींद की स्याही में
उंगलियां डुबो कर
दिन की बही लिखतीं
टटोलती रहतीं है
दरवाजों की कुंडियाॅ
बच्चों की चादर
पति का मन...
और जब जागती हैं सुबह
तो पूरा नहीं जागती
नींद में ही भागतीं है

सच है, औरतें बेहद अजीब होतीं हैं...

हवा की तरह घूमतीं, कभी घर में, कभी बाहर...
टिफिन में रोज़ नयी रखतीं कविताएँ
गमलों में रोज बो देती आशाऐं

पुराने अजीब से गाने गुनगुनातीं
और चल देतीं फिर
एक नये दिन के मुकाबिल
पहन कर फिर वही सीमायें
खुद से दूर हो कर भी
सब के करीब होतीं हैं

औरतें सच में, बेहद अजीब होतीं हैं

कभी कोई ख्वाब पूरा नहीं देखतीं
बीच में ही छोड़ कर देखने लगतीं हैं
चुल्हे पे चढ़ा दूध...

कभी कोई काम पूरा नहीं करतीं
बीच में ही छोड़ कर ढूँढने लगतीं हैं
बच्चों के मोजे, पेन्सिल, किताब
बचपन में खोई गुडिया,
जवानी में खोए पलाश,

मायके में छूट गयी स्टापू की गोटी,
छिपन-छिपाई के ठिकाने
वो छोटी बहन छिप के कहीं रोती...

सहेलियों से लिए-दिये...
या चुकाए गए हिसाब
बच्चों के मोजे, पेन्सिल किताब

खोलती बंद करती खिड़कियाँ
क्या कर रही हो?
सो गयी क्या ?
खाती रहती झिङकियाँ

न शौक से जीती है ,
न ठीक से मरती है
सच है, औरतें बेहद अजीब होतीं हैं ।

कितनी बार देखी है...
मेकअप लगाये,
चेहरे के नील छिपाए
वो कांस्टेबल लडकी,
वो ब्यूटीशियन,
वो भाभी, वो दीदी...

चप्पल के टूटे स्ट्रैप को
साड़ी के फाल से छिपाती
वो अनुशासन प्रिय टीचर
और कभी दिख ही जाती है
कॉरीडोर में, जल्दी जल्दी चलती,
नाखूनों से सूखा आटा झाडते,

सुबह जल्दी में नहाई
अस्पताल मे आई वो लेडी डॉक्टर
दिन अक्सर गुजरता है शहादत में
रात फिर से सलीब होती है...

सच है, औरतें बेहद अजीब होतीं हैं

सूखे मौसम में बारिशों को
याद कर के रोतीं हैं
उम्र भर हथेलियों में
तितलियां संजोतीं हैं

और जब एक दिन
बूंदें सचमुच बरस जातीं हैं
हवाएँ सचमुच गुनगुनाती हैं
फिजाएं सचमुच खिलखिलातीं हैं

तो ये सूखे कपड़ों, अचार, पापड़
बच्चों और सारी दुनिया को
भीगने से बचाने को दौड़ जातीं हैं...

सच है, औरतें बेहद अजीब होतीं हैं ।

खुशी के एक आश्वासन पर
पूरा पूरा जीवन काट देतीं है
अनगिनत खाईयों को
अनगिनत पुलो से पाट देतीं है...

सच है, औरतें बेहद अजीब होतीं हैं ।

ऐसा कोई करता है क्या?
रस्मों के पहाड़ों, जंगलों में
नदी की तरह बहती...
कोंपल की तरह फूटती...

जिन्दगी की आँख से
दिन रात इस तरह
और कोई झरता है क्या?
ऐसा कोई करता है क्या?

सच मे, औरतें बेहद अजीब होतीं हैं...

- गुलज़ार

(हमारे जीवन में ख़ुशी, समर्पण और प्रेम बरसाने वाली हर महिलाओं को सादर समर्पित)